Your thoughts lead to your feelings, your feelings become your actions and your actions become your results.

In other words…our words become actions, which eventually become your destiny.

It’s interesting how successful people are intentional about the words they speak, to themselves and to others.

The fact is, regardless of how you may define success, your words (those that you say to yourself as well as those you say out loud to other people) will help turn that vision into your reality.

Now there are many articles written on what successful people do say and don’t do, but today I’d like to share with you 6 things that successful people don’t say and don’t do…

1. “That’s impossible”
Interestingly, unsuccessful people are always pointing out what is not possible. To them the glass is always half empty, they live in a world of impossibilities; they have a can’t-do attitude, so they say: “I can’t” or “that can’t be done” or “that’s impossible.”
Not only are these words self-limiting, others perceive them as pessimistic, non-constructive, even defeatist.
Achievers know there are countless roadblocks on the road to success — barriers that may stall or stump, but never stop them.
They either remove the barrier, or figure out a way to go over, under, or around it.
So successful people say: “I have a choice,” “Here are our options,” or, “Let’s imagine all the possibilities.”

2. “I can do it all myself”
Successful people know the importance of getting a good team around them to triangulate, orientate and see through different eyes. They also recognise that if they’re the smartest person in their team they’re in trouble.

3. “It’s not fair.”
Everyone knows that life isn’t fair. Saying it’s not fair suggests that you think life is supposed to be fair and shows you don’t really have a handle on how things work.
Successful people are successful because when the odds are against them they choose to persevere despite things being unfair, rather than complaining and giving up.

4. “I’ll give it a try.”
The phrase sounds tentative and suggests you lack confidence in your ability to execute the task.
Take full ownership of your capabilities.
If you’re asked to do something, either commit to doing it or offer an alternative, but don’t say that you’ll ‘give it try’ because it sounds like you won’t try all that hard.

5. “I already know that”
This phrase is a sign of pure defensiveness — it means you’ve stopped seeking to learn and grow and have become more interested in being perceived as all knowing.
It’s one thing to speak knowledgeably about a topic and add insight; but there’s always more to learn and even if you “know it” are you using your knowledge, are you implementing it?

Remember to admit you’ve learned something new is simply to admit you’re wiser today than you were yesterday.

6. “Hey! Let me tell you what I’ve just heard about John…”
Successful will warn you about dangerous behaviours, but they don’t gossip, and they avoid words of judgment, insult and negativity.
If they can’t say something good about someone they don’t say anything

The bottom line:
Think about the things you say to yourself and to others that you need to stop saying. Then stop saying them!

Eliminating these words or phrases from your vocabulary will pay dividends.

The problem is they have a tendency to sneak up on us, so we’re going to have to speak to ourselves until we’ve solidified the habit of not saying them.

Here’s to your success! 

Ruth 

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It’s interesting to look at the root of where our words come from, it gives us an understanding of what was originally intended by the use of the word.

Take the word ‘Wealth’ for example. Now, in 2020 most people associate wealth with bank balance. However, that’s a corruption of the original intent, because it’s origins are linked to our ‘well-being’ and ‘health’ not money.

 Whilst having more in your bank balance can of course lead to more health and well-being through wise choices and a life of integrity, we believe true wealth is not just about your bank balance. In fact, some of the richest people we’ve ever met never even had a bank account to their name.

Where is your treasure?

We also believe where your treasure is, there your heart will be also and that in turn will impact your thoughts, behaviours and well-being. So a question we all need to ask ourselves is; where and what is our treasure?

Gratitude is Gold

We’ve found an attitude of gratitude is a form of treasure that supports well-being. Yes, gratitude really is GOLD.

Studies show that greater health and happiness is measurable in those who practice gratitude over those who focus on negative aspects, even to the extent that there is a change in the brain’s neuroplasticity, just do a google search to see. But how do we develop an attitude of gratitude especially in times of crisis?

3 Steps to GOLD

So there are some simple steps we can all take to develop an attitude of gratitude that contributes to our wealth. Please watch the short video below to learn three steps you can take right now toward an attitude of gratitude that can help you in your business, family and personal life:

An immunological study by University of California (Walker, M. 2017) was performed on two groups of people. With the consent of the participants, the two groups were given a dose of rhinovirus (the common cold). 50% of those in Group A went on to develop the common cold, whilst only 18% of those in Group B went on to develop the cold.

What was the immune boosting property given to Group B that enabled them to stave off the virus by such a statistically significant value?

Based on a large volume of requests for self-care related topics in this current pandemic, this week I share what that immune boosting property was, and the best thing of all is you don’t have to cue in a Pharmacy for it or even spend a single penny, it is freely available to each one of us for no cost at all.

Please click on the video below to watch

For further help with matters of personal or business resilience at this time, we’d love to hear from you at info@digilifeenabled.com.

For Ruth’s blog post on this theme, please Click Here

Reference
Walker, M. (2017) Why We Sleep. Penguin. Sleep Loss & The Immune System, p181-183

Are your dreams and goals becoming a reality, or do they just float around as wishful dreams and goals?

If the latter is the case, it could be you need to put some serious F.U.N. into your life.

What do I mean?

We’ll after Ruth & I caught up this weekend with International Senior Triathlete, Kari Martens, I had to share this perspective on F.U.N. and it’s relation to success with you…

Kari’s achievements include second place at the Decatriathlon (2008, in Mexico ), the only competition at the distance 10 times the ironman distance, at the time 8 days, 20 hours. He is the only Swedish person who has completed this distance (38 km swimming, 1800 km cycling, 422 km running, with the competition clock running all the time).

Other achievements include:

21 competitions conducted at Ironman distance
1 competition conducted at Ultraman distance (10 km swimming, 360 km cycling, 84 km running in three days, in Hawaii ), 2nd in the 50 year class.

These achievements are all the more remarkable when you consider Kari’s motivation to take up the sport. Following a heart attack due to unhealthy lifestyle choices, Kari not only realised he needed to change, he took action.

The key difference between those who succeed in this life and those who fail lies in responsibility for action.

I hope you’re encouraged by the video.