Your thoughts lead to your feelings, your feelings become your actions and your actions become your results.

In other words…our words become actions, which eventually become your destiny.

It’s interesting how successful people are intentional about the words they speak, to themselves and to others.

The fact is, regardless of how you may define success, your words (those that you say to yourself as well as those you say out loud to other people) will help turn that vision into your reality.

Now there are many articles written on what successful people do say and don’t do, but today I’d like to share with you 6 things that successful people don’t say and don’t do…

1. “That’s impossible”
Interestingly, unsuccessful people are always pointing out what is not possible. To them the glass is always half empty, they live in a world of impossibilities; they have a can’t-do attitude, so they say: “I can’t” or “that can’t be done” or “that’s impossible.”
Not only are these words self-limiting, others perceive them as pessimistic, non-constructive, even defeatist.
Achievers know there are countless roadblocks on the road to success — barriers that may stall or stump, but never stop them.
They either remove the barrier, or figure out a way to go over, under, or around it.
So successful people say: “I have a choice,” “Here are our options,” or, “Let’s imagine all the possibilities.”

2. “I can do it all myself”
Successful people know the importance of getting a good team around them to triangulate, orientate and see through different eyes. They also recognise that if they’re the smartest person in their team they’re in trouble.

3. “It’s not fair.”
Everyone knows that life isn’t fair. Saying it’s not fair suggests that you think life is supposed to be fair and shows you don’t really have a handle on how things work.
Successful people are successful because when the odds are against them they choose to persevere despite things being unfair, rather than complaining and giving up.

4. “I’ll give it a try.”
The phrase sounds tentative and suggests you lack confidence in your ability to execute the task.
Take full ownership of your capabilities.
If you’re asked to do something, either commit to doing it or offer an alternative, but don’t say that you’ll ‘give it try’ because it sounds like you won’t try all that hard.

5. “I already know that”
This phrase is a sign of pure defensiveness — it means you’ve stopped seeking to learn and grow and have become more interested in being perceived as all knowing.
It’s one thing to speak knowledgeably about a topic and add insight; but there’s always more to learn and even if you “know it” are you using your knowledge, are you implementing it?

Remember to admit you’ve learned something new is simply to admit you’re wiser today than you were yesterday.

6. “Hey! Let me tell you what I’ve just heard about John…”
Successful will warn you about dangerous behaviours, but they don’t gossip, and they avoid words of judgment, insult and negativity.
If they can’t say something good about someone they don’t say anything

The bottom line:
Think about the things you say to yourself and to others that you need to stop saying. Then stop saying them!

Eliminating these words or phrases from your vocabulary will pay dividends.

The problem is they have a tendency to sneak up on us, so we’re going to have to speak to ourselves until we’ve solidified the habit of not saying them.

Here’s to your success! 

Ruth 

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It’s interesting to look at the root of where our words come from, it gives us an understanding of what was originally intended by the use of the word.

Take the word ‘Wealth’ for example. Now, in 2020 most people associate wealth with bank balance. However, that’s a corruption of the original intent, because it’s origins are linked to our ‘well-being’ and ‘health’ not money.

 Whilst having more in your bank balance can of course lead to more health and well-being through wise choices and a life of integrity, we believe true wealth is not just about your bank balance. In fact, some of the richest people we’ve ever met never even had a bank account to their name.

Where is your treasure?

We also believe where your treasure is, there your heart will be also and that in turn will impact your thoughts, behaviours and well-being. So a question we all need to ask ourselves is; where and what is our treasure?

Gratitude is Gold

We’ve found an attitude of gratitude is a form of treasure that supports well-being. Yes, gratitude really is GOLD.

Studies show that greater health and happiness is measurable in those who practice gratitude over those who focus on negative aspects, even to the extent that there is a change in the brain’s neuroplasticity, just do a google search to see. But how do we develop an attitude of gratitude especially in times of crisis?

3 Steps to GOLD

So there are some simple steps we can all take to develop an attitude of gratitude that contributes to our wealth. Please watch the short video below to learn three steps you can take right now toward an attitude of gratitude that can help you in your business, family and personal life:

What can you do?

Do what you can.

“If you can’t fly, then run. If you can’t run, then walk. If you can’t walk, then crawl. But whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward.”
Dr Martin Luther King Jr

Growing up, the words, but perhaps more importantly, the life of Dr Martin Luther King Jr challenged and shaped my world view. Maybe you’ve been challenged by the likes of Luther King too?

Maybe you’ve heard his popular quote above?

It teaches us that no matter where you are in your journey to success, there is always some kind of action you can take to move forward. I share something more of that perspective in this short video:

For example; if you don’t have any money to start your business right now, you can still plan your future budget, or even design a business logo or website.

If you’re stuck in a job you don’t like, you can build up your CV/resume, or network with professionals in your area to learn about job opportunities.

If you’re like me, maybe you feel that small steps don’t feel as satisfying as big leaps, but Luther King showed us that any progress is better than no progress. So do what you can do today to get closer to your goals, whether it’s fly, run, walk, or crawl… and you will get to where you want to be.

I’d like to conclude with a lesser known quote of Luther King:

“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.”

To me that is equally as powerful as the first quote, because many people measure success from a perspective of Return On Investment (ROI) based on our actions, but fail to consider COI – Cost Of Inaction because of our silence.

So what matters most to you?

If no one was looking, who would you really want to be?

Are you being silent about that which really matters to you?

Make time today to reflect on how you can you give greater priority to that which matters most to you in the week ahead.

I find so many in business are unsatisfied with simply selling ‘stuff’.

Sure, we need to sell ‘stuff’ to keep the bread on the table, but what if there was more to business, more to life, than just selling ‘stuff’?

What if our business, what if our life, was about living out our values so as to make a difference in this world while at the same time providing for those we are responsible for?

One of the reasons we sign post people to the business start up programmes at SFM is because, having been through the system ourselves, and having met with the founders and lead team, we’ve seen it’s not about getting people to sell stuff.

Sure, there are some ready made resources for newbies starting out with to sell if they choose to, and as newbies we found that really helpful as we had nothing to sell, but it’s not about that.

The core of the SFM programme is about helping people understand their Vision, Mission, Purpose and Values, so they can become the best version of themselves in business and in life whether they choose to sell SFM stuff or not.

There’s very few programmes that offer that support.

Take SFM student, Rob Sewell as an example. I shared something of Rob’s transformation from Drug & Alcohol abuse to six figure business owner here:

In going through the SFM programme Rob now appreciates:

1. The impact of speaking truth & empowering others
2. The hardships he’s overcome and how they’ve helped him find his true purpose
3. How the experiences you go through forge your values
4. How he’s stepped into his purpose and launched his own coaching business

Rob now seeks to serve others by acting as a guiding light that shows people a space where they feel safe and understood.

Rob’s Vision, Mission, Purpose & Values

Where your treasure is, your heart will be also. So where and what is your treasure?

This video is about how an attitude of gratitude is a form of treasure, yes, gratitude really is GOLD.

Studies show that greater health and happiness is measurable in those who practice gratitude over those who focus on negative aspects, even to the extent that there is a change in the brain’s neuroplasticity.

But how do we develop an attitude of gratitude?

Please click here or on the picture below to learn three steps you can take toward an attitude of gratitude that can help you in your business and personal life.

I was on a call this week with one of the other SFM members, Rob Sewell, who really shared from the heart about how learning to live a life of honesty has turned his personal and business life around.

Please click here to hear more in a video I shot for you:

 

 

 

 

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Here’s the notes I took from Rob’s call which I share in the video above. I trust they inspire you just as they inspire me:

“We talk about being authentic here in SFM, well in my experience that all starts with honesty.

A couple of years ago I couldn’t have been further away from that.

My transformation in life has been quite remarkable and it all started with honesty.

It is the foundation of my recovery from Drug and alcohol addiction, and has been instrumental in building my SFM affiliate business to 5 figures a month.

Honesty is not just about telling the truth. It’s about being real with yourself and others about who you are, what you want and what you need to live your most authentic life.

Honesty promotes openness, empowers us and enables us to develop consistency in how we present the facts. Honesty sharpens our perception and allows us to observe everything around us with clarity.

The stress in our lives comes not from the environment, but from the self-built jail of the mind. What keeps us in our self-built jails is lying, mostly to ourselves.

I want to provide people with the tools we can use to escape from that jail of the mind. Facing up to what you have avoided leads to a huge release of emotion which then leads to a state of overflowing creativity.

To be able to create you must be able to tell the truth. Telling the truth frees us from the entrapment of the mind.

We all lie to others for personal gain or to excuse or misrepresent our own shortcomings, but the worst type of lying we practice, is when we lie to ourselves.

We convince ourselves we are not good enough or able to do something our heart was really set on.

It sets us back by delaying the pursuit of our goals and dreams. It takes away our ability to take chances that our heart is willing to take but our mind is blocking us from taking.

Despite its temptation, ease of use and false promises, lying gets us nowhere in the end.

So, do you want to be one of the most respected, highly thought of people among your social sphere and your business?

Honesty should be the bedrock of your foundation, as it will define who you are before you even allow others to know more about you.

Honesty helps you find the answers you’re looking for.

Honesty gets you where you want to go faster because you live how you really feel.

You may not always know what you want in your future, but your intuition will give you a feel for what is in harmony with your heart.

Start today, first, by being as honest as you can with yourself. Be honest about your thoughts, words, actions and wants.

Then, think about your interaction with society, your personal relationships, and your customers.

Are you letting people know your true self?

If not, what are you afraid of?”

Rob Sewell

 

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