Your thoughts lead to your feelings, your feelings become your actions and your actions become your results.

In other words…our words become actions, which eventually become your destiny.

It’s interesting how successful people are intentional about the words they speak, to themselves and to others.

The fact is, regardless of how you may define success, your words (those that you say to yourself as well as those you say out loud to other people) will help turn that vision into your reality.

Now there are many articles written on what successful people do say and don’t do, but today I’d like to share with you 6 things that successful people don’t say and don’t do…

1. “That’s impossible”
Interestingly, unsuccessful people are always pointing out what is not possible. To them the glass is always half empty, they live in a world of impossibilities; they have a can’t-do attitude, so they say: “I can’t” or “that can’t be done” or “that’s impossible.”
Not only are these words self-limiting, others perceive them as pessimistic, non-constructive, even defeatist.
Achievers know there are countless roadblocks on the road to success — barriers that may stall or stump, but never stop them.
They either remove the barrier, or figure out a way to go over, under, or around it.
So successful people say: “I have a choice,” “Here are our options,” or, “Let’s imagine all the possibilities.”

2. “I can do it all myself”
Successful people know the importance of getting a good team around them to triangulate, orientate and see through different eyes. They also recognise that if they’re the smartest person in their team they’re in trouble.

3. “It’s not fair.”
Everyone knows that life isn’t fair. Saying it’s not fair suggests that you think life is supposed to be fair and shows you don’t really have a handle on how things work.
Successful people are successful because when the odds are against them they choose to persevere despite things being unfair, rather than complaining and giving up.

4. “I’ll give it a try.”
The phrase sounds tentative and suggests you lack confidence in your ability to execute the task.
Take full ownership of your capabilities.
If you’re asked to do something, either commit to doing it or offer an alternative, but don’t say that you’ll ‘give it try’ because it sounds like you won’t try all that hard.

5. “I already know that”
This phrase is a sign of pure defensiveness — it means you’ve stopped seeking to learn and grow and have become more interested in being perceived as all knowing.
It’s one thing to speak knowledgeably about a topic and add insight; but there’s always more to learn and even if you “know it” are you using your knowledge, are you implementing it?

Remember to admit you’ve learned something new is simply to admit you’re wiser today than you were yesterday.

6. “Hey! Let me tell you what I’ve just heard about John…”
Successful will warn you about dangerous behaviours, but they don’t gossip, and they avoid words of judgment, insult and negativity.
If they can’t say something good about someone they don’t say anything

The bottom line:
Think about the things you say to yourself and to others that you need to stop saying. Then stop saying them!

Eliminating these words or phrases from your vocabulary will pay dividends.

The problem is they have a tendency to sneak up on us, so we’re going to have to speak to ourselves until we’ve solidified the habit of not saying them.

Here’s to your success! 

Ruth 

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It’s interesting to look at the root of where our words come from, it gives us an understanding of what was originally intended by the use of the word.

Take the word ‘Wealth’ for example. Now, in 2020 most people associate wealth with bank balance. However, that’s a corruption of the original intent, because it’s origins are linked to our ‘well-being’ and ‘health’ not money.

 Whilst having more in your bank balance can of course lead to more health and well-being through wise choices and a life of integrity, we believe true wealth is not just about your bank balance. In fact, some of the richest people we’ve ever met never even had a bank account to their name.

Where is your treasure?

We also believe where your treasure is, there your heart will be also and that in turn will impact your thoughts, behaviours and well-being. So a question we all need to ask ourselves is; where and what is our treasure?

Gratitude is Gold

We’ve found an attitude of gratitude is a form of treasure that supports well-being. Yes, gratitude really is GOLD.

Studies show that greater health and happiness is measurable in those who practice gratitude over those who focus on negative aspects, even to the extent that there is a change in the brain’s neuroplasticity, just do a google search to see. But how do we develop an attitude of gratitude especially in times of crisis?

3 Steps to GOLD

So there are some simple steps we can all take to develop an attitude of gratitude that contributes to our wealth. Please watch the short video below to learn three steps you can take right now toward an attitude of gratitude that can help you in your business, family and personal life:

This week we caught up with Phil & Pauline Sanderson who hold a number of world records in the Mountaineering world including:

• The World’s longest climb – The Dead Sea (lowest point) to Everest (highest point)

• The 1st British married couple to summit Everest – Only 2 couples have ever done this

• And the the world record for…well I explain more in the video below…

There are so many parallels between planing and executing an expedition to starting an online  business. I would suggest the most important parallel is ‘mindset’, and both Phil & Pauline admit the key success factor for them has always been taking control of the conversation that happens in their head.

They both experience doubt, they both experience ‘imposter syndrome’ (I’m not good enough to be here) and they both feel like giving up when things go wrong. Have you ever felt like that?

So why don’t they give up where others have?

Because of the conversation they have in their heads. They take control of the negative thoughts they hear.

What we also love about Phil & Pauline is how they have used their achievements to help a number of charities including: 

SOS Childrens Villages ( The world’s largest orphan charity)

What can you do?

Do what you can.

“If you can’t fly, then run. If you can’t run, then walk. If you can’t walk, then crawl. But whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward.”
Dr Martin Luther King Jr

Growing up, the words, but perhaps more importantly, the life of Dr Martin Luther King Jr challenged and shaped my world view. Maybe you’ve been challenged by the likes of Luther King too?

Maybe you’ve heard his popular quote above?

It teaches us that no matter where you are in your journey to success, there is always some kind of action you can take to move forward. I share something more of that perspective in this short video:

For example; if you don’t have any money to start your business right now, you can still plan your future budget, or even design a business logo or website.

If you’re stuck in a job you don’t like, you can build up your CV/resume, or network with professionals in your area to learn about job opportunities.

If you’re like me, maybe you feel that small steps don’t feel as satisfying as big leaps, but Luther King showed us that any progress is better than no progress. So do what you can do today to get closer to your goals, whether it’s fly, run, walk, or crawl… and you will get to where you want to be.

I’d like to conclude with a lesser known quote of Luther King:

“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.”

To me that is equally as powerful as the first quote, because many people measure success from a perspective of Return On Investment (ROI) based on our actions, but fail to consider COI – Cost Of Inaction because of our silence.

So what matters most to you?

If no one was looking, who would you really want to be?

Are you being silent about that which really matters to you?

Make time today to reflect on how you can you give greater priority to that which matters most to you in the week ahead.

You know, many people talk about ‘thinking big’ in business and in life to succeed, and I get that, but this week I want to encourage you to simply think small, in both your business and personal life.

In the video below I share two examples of people who are making a big difference in this world not by thinking big, but by thinking small, one of whom is a 16 year old girl who through small acts is making a huge difference…

Finally, as we all think about ways to generate wealth to make a difference in this world, I want to leave you with some of the last words Steve Jobs shared before he passed away at the age of 56 from pancreatic cancer:

“At this moment, lying on the bed, sick and remembering all my life, I realize that all my recognition and wealth that I have is meaningless in the face of imminent death.

You can hire someone to drive a car for you, make money for you – but you cannot hire someone to carry the disease for you.

One can find material things, but there is one thing that can not be found when it is lost – “LIFE”. So, love the people God sent you, one day he’ll need them back…”

May we all make a big difference in the week ahead by thinking small.

Where your treasure is, your heart will be also. So where and what is your treasure?

This video is about how an attitude of gratitude is a form of treasure, yes, gratitude really is GOLD.

Studies show that greater health and happiness is measurable in those who practice gratitude over those who focus on negative aspects, even to the extent that there is a change in the brain’s neuroplasticity.

But how do we develop an attitude of gratitude?

Please click here or on the picture below to learn three steps you can take toward an attitude of gratitude that can help you in your business and personal life.

What has Horse Riding and words of Wisdom from Dr Martin Luther King have to do with learning to start something new?

I share some fundamental principles from both in relation to starting an online business you’re passionate about in this Sunday’s thought for the week.

Please click here or on the picture below to watch this Sunday’s thought for the week. 

I also introduce one of our latest ImportsXperts business mentors to you, Jay Bansal:

Our ImportXperts team are all about helping and guiding you to build an eCommerce business which is relevant for you. And by that, we mean helping you sell products based on your interests. There are tons of reasons why this is so useful:

• You’ll understand what your audience wants
• You’ll be able to answer your customers’ questions better
• There’s more chance you’ll have the passion to stick at it, even if you come across a few hurdles
• You’ll have pride in your business
• And there’ll be more chance of long-term success

Jay will be heading up the new training curriculum in our ImportXperts academy, and to summarise:

• He’s a very successful entrepreneur having sold multiple products on Amazon and Shopify over the past 5+ years. 
• He’s mastered the art of design and knows how to create the most premium products. He made $25,000 in one day serving just 23 customers!
• He’s worked with both small and big budgets and has a passion for supporting others to create amazing products that they can be proud of.